So I have only been married for a little over a day and a half, but as I close in on the “big” two day mark, I figured that I should post some reflections and realizations that I have had.

One of the first things I noticed was that pre-wedding jitters happens to the best of us. Before the wedding got close, and right after it was over, I was one hundred percent sure I was doing the right thing, but getting close to the moment at hand, I could feel the weight of the choice I was making, and was worried that I was still too young, too unsure of myself, not stable enough in life, and even worried about if I was choosing the right person.

While we stood together under a willow tree, I looked into Sabine’s eyes, and knew I was in the right place, at the right time, with the right person. I know it sounds cheesy, but it was an exhilarating and freeing feeling.

The next thing I noticed was the “change”. It is a feeling that something in the relationship has changed, maybe it was because we had created a new permanence in our relationship, but whatever it was, it made things feel different than they were the day before. The effect wore off rather quickly, as both Sabine and I continued to act as we had before. Nothing had really changed. After being together for five years, and growing together with each new challenge, how could they change because of a small ceremony?

That was the other funny thing about going through and getting married. We expected it to be this important event, where the world would stop turning just for us as we said out vows, and yet things didn’t. It didn’t reduce how special the event was, but also reminded us of how small our wedding event was. Don’t get me wrong, we enjoyed having a nearly stress free nuptial but it would have been nice if we had made a bit more of a fuss about our wedding.

Sabine is back at school today, continuing to take classes, and on Wednesday we both return back to work. The only real changes being that I now wear a ring because just like before the wedding, both Sabine and I were in this for the long haul. We love each other, and despite any of the rough patches, and our continual self-exploration, we have only grown closer, and entwined our lives deeper and deeper together.